When we come home from work, from a long day, stressful and full of challenges before we enter into our home lets take a couple minutes and think about positive things before we bring in all our worries, concerns and tribulations. Its good to prevent to bring negativity into our home, a bad face, a bad mood etc. It will poison our house it will poison the peace. When I enter and sit down and maybe my wife made some food, tea etc. I start with talking about the good things that happened during the day. After I acclimated a bit, lets say after half an hour I might talk about other things, things that bothered me, that I was stressed or concerned about. Now I found a ground an openess a trust to be able to handle and share these things with her.
For the wife its very important to give the husband some room, some space. If he wants to be quiet let him be quiet. If he needs to relax with his newspaper, let him read his newspaper. He came from the outside world and needs to calm down, adjust to the atmosphere in the home and open up with her wife again.