One thing I observe on myself is how I fall back to take my wife for granted and that is expressed in how I talk to her. I think sometimes our interactions are less like husband and wife rather like roommates, practical, without much emotional relation, cherishing, loving. And its interesting that she speaks exactly how I approach her. I have noticed that on other couples who are much longer married then me as well and I think thats really hard for a wife to take. When I witnessed a conversation that someone had with his wife the other day I was immediately reminded of myself how I talk to my wife sometimes and I think its really a man – thing. We talk in short sentences, abgehackt, just exchanging information and tasks. And what was interesting to listen to their conversation was that the wife answered back in the same way of unloving uncaring tone of voice. And I think women really suffer from it.
My tip: Listen how women talk to each other. They are engaged, emotional, compassionate, sharing, caring and I think that they want to be approached by us in the same way in order to feel good around us. And hey, isn’t it our job to make our spouse feel good?
So, lets listen to ourselves how we talk to the one that is suppose to be the most important one in the world.