Welcome to KosherMarriage.com. This is my favorite topic that I really feel fired up about. I think marriage is something important and adventures that can bring us to new realms that we couldn’t have discovered on our own. Unfortunately our society is so problem focussed that being married is often discredited. This blog is for the ones who want to go on an adventure to discover together with me what marriage is all about and how we can make it better every day to fulfill our purpose and dreams.
About myself: I’m coming from a divorced household. My mom is in her second marriage, my father was married three times and is retired and single. My brother was two times married and is now left with two children. I knew that I don’t want to go through the same things like they went. I’m married since a couple of years, I have 3 children and I struggled a lot in my marriage. But I’m very proud to say that we came a very long way and practicing being married every day and are getting closer and closer to each other in a real way.
Honestly we didn’t have the most promising statistics on our site that our marriage would last. I come from a divorced home so to my wife. The chance of succeeding and staying married was statistically around 15%. We were fighting, we broke out into nagging each other and though I new I loved my wife terribly I didn’t know what I did wrong, why things got so bad. I tried everything what people and tons of books where suggesting to fix my relationship with her. They said you need to have equality in your relationship, you need to talk a lot about the problems, you need to go to counseling, get a psychologist etc. But none of this was helping in the long run. We were always falling back into our old behavior.
Unfortunately society doesn’t much appreciate people staying married. Everything evolves around single life style. The massive advertising where women on posters and on TV make us believe that women look and behave in certain ways and we take this image with us wherever we go, into our homes, into our privacies. Many of us think, it doesn’t matter, we can’t change it anyway. But I wanted to change it. I wanted to figure out what keeps a divorce rate of more then 50% and what I can do about it.
Movies make us believe that relationship and love are just flying into the window and people succeed by accident. Either they love each other or they don’t. And if they don’t they dispose each other like an old radio and get a new one. And they start all over again till they reach the exact same point where they left with the ex wife, ex spouse, former relationship.
I want to contribute to a total new way of viewing a relationship between husband and wife and I guarantee you that you will find success and happiness in your relationship. Because its 90% behavior and 10% matching.
I want to thank foremost my wife Melody. Who went through so much with me and for hanging in with me and giving me the opportunity to refine myself to become a better man, a better husband a better human being, every moment.
Thanks to my teachers from whom I still learn what it takes to be married and believe me I’m still struggling but every day is a more amazing one. Thank you Rabbi Nachman, Shalom Arush, Dave Ramsey and my beloved Moshe Harizi.
So, follow me on this amazing journey and adventure for a better, happier fulfilled marriage and life.
Yours Shmuel.
